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Dealing with the Downside of Depression


By: Jessica Buettner
PERSPECTIVES COLUMNIST

Depression is something that can happen to many people if a major unexpected event has happened to them: a breakup, the death of a loved one, bullies, friendship troubles, etc. When a person starts to experience depression, they start to think thoughts that sometimes have to deal with ending their lives. They start to isolate themselves from the rest of the world as they try to deal with the pain that exists inside them. In order to properly deal with depression, a person has to be reminded of the positive things that happen in life and try to get their feet back off the ground. Here are a few tips that can help a person deal with the downside effects that depression has to offer.

1. It’s normal to want space from the rest of the world
When the certain event happens to a person, it’s normal to want personal space so he or she can cope with the emotions inside of his or her head. If they keep asking over and over again to be left alone, please do respect their wishes otherwise it’ll be harder for them to get over their sad thoughts.

2. Listen to some happy music
Being depressed can sometimes mean having the need to listening to sad and upsetting music. That’s okay, but it’ll convince the person to stay in the depressed state of mind that they are in. Listening to happy music can change their mind set into thinking happy thoughts, bringing them a few feet out of the depression bubble they are in.

3. Briefly look back on the memories then get rid of them
Looking at a few objects of memorabilia is a normal thing to do so a person can be reminded of the importance of the person/event. However, if they hold onto those items for a long time after the event happened, they’ll keep thinking the downside of the whole situation. Once a person feels comfortable with it, they should get rid of anything that reminds them of the depressing situation as soon as possible.

4. Write out all of your thoughts and feelings
With all of these mixed thoughts and feelings locked up in a person’s mind, it can become easy for them to get confused and lost. It’s best to try and write it out so they can get the thoughts and emotions organized and seen right in front of them. That way, he or she will be able to understand why they are feeling this way and what they can do to make it all better for themselves.

5. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone about how you’re feeling
If some of these feelings are getting to the better of a person, then they shouldn’t be afraid to express these thoughts to someone they trust. Whether it would be with parents, a really good friend, or even a counselor, sharing the things that are up inside a person’s mind can be one of the best things to do so they can hear what you’re saying and why they are saying those things. There is no wrong way to tell someone how he or she is really feeling on the inside about a situation that is giving them a lot of trou