by: Jessica Buettner
Many of us have been in different relationships with potential love partners; however, sometimes it doesn’t work out and the relationship might just come to an end. I know that the two relationships that I have had in the past didn’t work out and I spent a good amount of time getting upset about it. It may be hard to get over your ex, but if you follow these simple steps, then it will be easy to get over the past experiences you had with your boyfriend/girlfriend.
When you go through a break up, the other person might say that they would want to still be friends with you. I wouldn’t recommend that so soon because every time you see them, you might be thinking about all of the times in the past that you were together. I would suggest that you give yourself some time to keep your distance from your ex; this would mean that you don’t want to answer their calls or text messages and don’t want to talk to them if you run into them. Make sure to get rid of any pictures, gifts, songs, and anything else that would bring up any memories you have from being with this person. It also means blocking them from your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media sites so you don’t obsess about what they’re doing without you.
You probably didn’t spend much time with your friends because you were spending that time with your previous lover. Now that he/she is gone, this can give you a great chance to reconnect with old friendships as well as trying to make some new ones. You can get some of your friends together and go to the movies, the mall, the bowling alley, etc. This will give you some opportunities to talk to them on what you have been up to, just don’t keep mentioning your ex. You don’t want to annoy your pals by bringing up your failed relationship and bringing everyone down.
With all this new time on your hands, you might find something new to do. This could be a hobby that you have been involved in for a while, but you just didn’t have time to do it. You can maybe write that novel that you have always wanted to get published, studying to get that A on the upcoming math test, or working hard to get that promotion at your job. Keeping yourself busy can become easier when you think about the number of things that you need to get done now that you are no longer around your previous lover. It’s good if you find yourself having things to do because it can make you think less about your ex and focus more on yourself to be a better you!
A teacher of mine used to say, “If you look good, then you feel good and when you feel good, then you do good.” There are many things that you can do so you can feel like your old happy self once again which can help you do good things with your life. Going out and getting a new style complete with new clothes, makeup, shoes, etc. This could also be going out for a spa day which will give you the chance to relax and forget about all of the troubles that you have dealt with in the past.
Other people have dealt with this type of situation before and it is all a part of what life is about. Time is a great healer and it will remind you that soon enough, you will find someone out there who is better suited for you. Keep thinking about the reason why you broke up with your ex because it can be used as a reminder that tells you that you don’t want to go down that road again. Everyone goes through the same experiences as each other and you will be able to move on from the past so that way you can look forward to a brighter future with a new companion.